An Afghan nightmare: Forced to marry your rapist
Kabul, Afghanistan (CNN)It is an unimaginably hideous outcome.
To be raped by your cousin's husband; be jailed for adultery as your attacker was married; to suffer the ignominy of global uproar about your jailing and assault, but be pardoned by presidential decree; and then to endure the shame and rejection from a conservative society that somehow held you to blame.
The solution in this society? Marry your attacker.
That's what happened to Gulnaz, who was barely 16 when she was raped. She's now carrying the third child of her attacker, Asadullah, who was convicted and jailed -- though this was then reduced.
Gulnaz's plight -- like so much in beleaguered Afghanistan -- disappeared from the world's gaze once she was pardoned and released courtesy of a presidential pardon. Instead of a new start, what followed for Gulnaz was a quiet, Afghan solution to the "problem" -- a telling sign of where women's rights stand in Afghanistan despite the billions that have poured into this country from the U.S. government and its NATO allies during more than a decade of war.
We found Gulnaz in her family home. Smile, the name of the daughter born of the rape, is now a shining little girl, bouncing around the house that her mother shares with Asadullah's first wife -- who is also Gulnaz's cousin.
Asadullah agreed to let us speak with him and Gulnaz because, it seemed, he wanted to show us that things were now settled, that under Afghanistan's version of social morality he had done the right thing. He had rescued Gulnaz from shame.
"If I hadn't married her, (but) according to our traditions, she couldn't have lived back in society," he tells us. "Her brothers didn't want to accept her back. Now, she doesn't have any of those problems."
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Two extremes - Indians are demanding death penalties for rapists and Afghans are rewarding them.
Another Tripe by Qarar!!!
The important point of the story is that the sentence of the rapist was reduced through a presidential decree. Also, the society as a whole didn't side with the victim but even the family of the raped was with the rapist, forcing her to marry him and relive the agony of rape every day.
Come to think of it, Afghan justice system is at least a little better than that of Pakistan. The rapist was at least convicted and sentenced (although let go after a short sentence). In Pakistan, there hasn't been any conviction in any rape case in the last several years because of the absence of four 'pious male Muslim' witnesses.
نہ نو من تیل ہوگا نہ رادھا ناچے گی
This is forum about Pakistan and not Afghanistan!!
@Anjaan dear, don't get upset. You are only fueling rumors that you once used to be the infamous moderator of this forum who was fond of banning everyone. ;-)
Dream on you poor thing!!!